❔  What was your relationship like with your parents growing up?
❔  What do you wish your parents had done differently?

These are questions I recently posed to a father on a consult call.

The answer wasn’t pretty.

His father’s parenting style focused on compliance over relationship, with a set of strict rules and punishments that were expected and accepted in their community. But this approach ended up breaking their relationship and leaving wounds beyond repair … or so he initially believed.

After we dug deep, he realized that although he would still be guarded, if his father approached him with true remorse and a genuine desire to do things different, his father could begin to chip away at the walls his son had built high around himself.

What does this mean for you?

Whether you are a child of a parent whose parenting methods caused damage, or a parent who is struggling to find an approach that is effective for your family, there is an opportunity to move forward and repair relationships.

Wherever you are in THIS exact moment, I have no doubt you are doing the best you can. However, the flip side to this, is that we can also always do better. As soon as we know better, we can do better.

And that’s what I do. I help parents learn another way to parent.

Our parents did the best they could, with the tools they had at had that time.  But now we have an opportunity to make changes in the way we, and future generations, parent. And, as we tend to parent the way we were parented, we need support and education to do things differently.

With new parenting tools and strategies (and lots of thought work on our ingrained beliefs) – I help parents create the family experience they desire – to experience peace in the home, minimize power struggles, increase cooperation, repair and build family relationships; and to raise self-sufficient, emotionally strong children who will then raise a new generation of healthy and connected families.