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  • Valerie

    January 4, 2023 at 4:52 am

      This couldn’t have come at a more perfect time! My husband and I were just talking about this last night. I was putting my oldest to sleep and he came in and changed something that got our child upset (it needed to happen but just didn’t need to happen right then and there). He kept saying to me later that he failed him. I was trying to do this flip for him (before I watched this lesson) and tell him that he hadn’t. I’m not sure what a good flip would be to say instead…I made a mistake and I’ll learn from it?

    • Janell

      January 5, 2023 at 11:43 am

        “I made a mistake and I’ll learn from it” is a great replacement thought! Really it’s just about what thought “flips” your mindset from negative to positive/growth. Different thoughts resonate differently with different people so if that didn’t work for him some other ideas could be:
        “I did the best that I could in that moment… and I will do better next time.”
        “My intentions were good.”
        “I’m obviously a good parent because I’m so upset about this.”
        “Making a little mistake is NOT failing my child”
        “I’m human, I’m going to make mistakes.”
        “Yay!! Now I have an opportunity to connect with my son by showing him no one is perfect – an impossible stigma. And I can model accountability and repair so he has the tools for when he inevitably makes mistakes.” (This one is a little long – LOL .)

        Hope some of these help!
        Great job!!

      • Valerie

        January 6, 2023 at 4:50 pm

          This is so helpful! Thank you ❤️! I was totally overthinking it as usual.

        • Janell

          January 7, 2023 at 12:05 pm

            I so feel your pain fellow overthinker. ?

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